What to expect on your first session
Where to stand, what to wear, who to look for, and why nobody will ask you why you came.
Self Invested Men · 1 October 2026 · 3 minute read
Turning up the first time is the hardest bit. Here is exactly what happens, so there are no surprises.
Before you go
Wear whatever you would wear to walk the dog. Trainers are fine for everything except the hill walk, where proper shoes help. Bring water. That is it.
When you arrive
Get there five or ten minutes early. Look for the leader, they will be the one with the clipboard they never actually use. Tell them it is your first time. They will introduce you to someone and make sure you are not stood on your own.
During the session
Go at your own pace. On runs there is always a walking group at the back, and somebody always stays with the last man. Nobody goes round the room and nobody will ask why you came.
Afterwards
Most sessions end with a brew. Stay if you like, go if you would rather. Either is fine.
Most men who feel nervous on week one are still here at week ten.